stardustcboy's Diaryland Diary ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Never Look a Gift Unicorn in the Mouth... all right enough of that crap, moving forward... so the deal is that we have a newly awakened unicorn in our lives. for those of you who don't know, a "unicorn" is a lifestyle term used to describe a single female. why unicorn? because they're mythological creatures that don't exist...it's sort of an inside joke. most people in the 'style are looking for single ladies to hook up with but nary any are available. so when one comes around it's super rare indeed. that being said, we have the honor of actually KNOWING one AND introducing one to the ways of the 'style. this unicorn is none other than fluffykitty. one side to this that's interesting is that she's confessed her adoration of both jelly and i, and her interest in being with us as a third. i've also admitted my interest in her as a possible sexual partner as well. i absolutely adore lil fluffykitty and am nicely attracted to her; but the tricky part is the idea of INTEGRATION. this confessional has opened up several doors, but it takes time to sort of figure out where everyone is at with it and how it relates to all parties involved. so the facts are this, jelly and i love our lil fluffykitty; but jelly is a bit tenative about engaging in a sexual relationship with her due to emotional bonds and proximity types of things. for me, i think that this is actually a very GOOD thing. first off, jelly has always sought a sexual relationship with a girl, but really doesn't know how to go about getting one. here we have a lovely woman who is MORE than willing to give it a go. this could be greatly beneficial in many, many ways. first, fluffykitty has no pretenses as to who we are...she adores us for us, no more no less. in fact, we can all feel REALLY comfortable around each other. we are deeply connected to each others' humanity and have no real expectations overall. i think that a night with fluffykitty could end up being like this OR it could just be us cuddling in bed and watching movies and falling asleep early. the sense of obligation isn't as intense. in that sense emotional proximity maybe a really great thing. that we can all just play and have fun and enjoy each other FOR each other without the awkwardness or weirdness of "dating" and "courtship" that oftentimes comes along with the whole swinging thing. in other words, we have a completely viable third partner to play with already, and (in my mind) it greatly diminishes the need to wrack our brains looking for one beyond that. third, for me, it would be a way to enjoy the long-dreamed of fantasy of having a gorgeous and buxom brunette and a lovely blonde at the same time. not only that, but in all honesty, i've not been in a 3-some with two girls in like...well...forever...i don't even think i'd remember what to do right away! for me, having two women that i am absolutely fond of and totally click with is really a key to a very fun and enjoyable moment. i'm not having to impress anyone with my prowess or anything, and overall i know what i'm dealing with. that and those involved can feel free to communicate their desire freely because we're all friends here and we don't have to put up fronts or pretend or anything. finally, we all enjoy the same things. we're all peas in a lil pod when we hang out. we like ham, we like dancing, we like talking and movies, we like good food and wine and to all intents and purposes we share a lot of interests right down to the fact that we all like girls and we all like boys! to me these are all the undeniable positives! so the idea of sharing a sexual relationship between the three of us seems like it would be great fun and just an added bonus to what we already share with each other. now, realistically, there are issues that have to be addressed and examined like anything else. one of those is time-sharing and such. what if someone is in the mood but others are not? or two are in the mood and one is not? what if jelly doesn't want to be sexually involved with fluffykitty? or vice-versa? or if i find it diffucult or strange? what about other partners, play-dates, parties, and single men? all need to be discussed in detail between all parties i think. my point of view overall is that this is something that i would more than anything love to share with my jelly. that's the whole point in the end. i could play seperate with fluffykitty, and that is always an option, but overall i think it would be much more fun and beneficial to all enjoy it together until everyone is comfortable with seperate play or just play in general. seperate play involves a whole different can of worms like: what night/s of the week is it allowed? how often? where? that sort of thing. all viable and valid questions that should be asked if that were to be the case. though they could be avoided if all parties were to play together. then when the comfort is there, and trust is solid, and we all feel good and united then other methods can be discussed. but to understand each other and have fun with each other i think is tantamount for first steps. simply because no one feels left out or estranged. overall i think it's important that everyone know and understand that this relationship is ADDITIVE and not SUBTRACTIVE. in other words, there really is only the possibility of enhancement and enjoyment...WITH the right levels of communication and honesty. i fully believe that fluffykitty DEEPLY respects jelly's and my relationship, she's admitted to us both that she is deeply enamoured with us BOTH and that if she could she would pursue a deeper more intimate sexual relationship; and all of this is really the makings of something fun, entertaining, and mutually beneficial. a lot of learning can be had that's fairly safe and comfortable, and we're close enough that we can overcome any snags that may arise like we all have done in the past. this closeness is i think scary, because it defies all rational explanation AND it also denounces ANY idea of mainstream relationship archtypes that we may still have nailed in our heads. but we're all unconventional conventionalists in the end. we want the thrill and excitement of "breaking the rules" but still want the safety that oftentimes has nothing to do with it. :-P i used a food analogy to describe sex before, so i'll take it another step further... when i'm in the mood for sushi the first place i want to go is the sushi joint down the street because I KNOW THAT IT WILL BE GREAT. i associate quality as well as a lot of emotional aspects to that sushi place and so that's why i go there again and again. why on earth would i choose a place i've never been to that's further away and possibly not very good? i could just go to my favorite sushi place, eat some delicious sushi, and then go home. i get to enjoy the "otherness" of the food, let my palette enjoy new taste sensations while KNOWING that i'm not going end up at home sick as a dog from bad sushi. that's what i'm saying. i guess i'm also saying... not many people have this opportunity or connection, and they search the world over. we have the lovely luck of actually having a friend that we can explore it all with. in the same vein and along the same lines...i would as MUCH be interested in developing an intimate sexual relationship with my buddy LoUiE as far as bringing a man into my marriage, as i would fluffykitty as another woman in my marriage. the two to me are a nice safety, and i absolutely adore them and feel good around them. to me there is no threat, just a huge amount of possibility for fun and frolick! so basically, Never look a gift unicorn in the mouth. ~B-)
10:10 a.m. - 2006-11-03 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
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